Is it possible to want someone after so many years?

Yes, it is possible to have feelings and desire for someone after many years. Feelings and desires can evolve and change over time and with new experiences. Love and attraction can be reborn at any time. 

How can you keep the desire for your partner alive after many years?

There are several ways to maintain desire for your partner over the years:

1. Communicate : Listening and talking to your partner can strengthen the relationship and help you understand each other's needs and desires.
2. Nurture the passion: Try new activities together, plan outings and trips to renew the flame.
3. Keeping the romance alive: Small gestures, gifts and romantic gestures can help to maintain the closeness and tenderness.
4. Take care of yourself: It's important to feel good about yourself to boost your self-confidence and rekindle your desire.
5. Maintain an active sex life: Try new scenarios and techniques to renew your excitement and passion.

However, it's important to remember that desire can fluctuate over time, and that's normal. What's important is to remain open to communication and to work together to maintain a strong and healthy relationship.

How can you communicate your sexual desires?

Here are a few steps to communicating your sexual desires effectively:

1. Establish a comfortable environment: Find a private, quiet time to discuss your desires.
2. Use clear language: Avoid innuendo and be direct in what you say.
3. Be respectful: Listen carefully to your partner's point of view and don't judge.
4. Be open to negotiation: Be prepared to compromise and explore options that satisfy both partners.
5. Show empathy: Try to understand your partner's fears or uncertainties and show your support.
6. Be patient: Communicating your sexual desires can be a difficult process, but it's important to be patient and keep communicating to build a strong and satisfying relationship.

It's important to remember that communicating your sexual desires is a normal part of any healthy relationship and can help to strengthen the connection and intimacy.

How does sexuality age?

Sexuality can change over time due to factors such as ageing, hormonal changes, health conditions and psychological factors. However, it's important to remember that sexuality can be maintained at any age depending on an individual's wishes and abilities. Here's how sexuality can change with age:

1. Physiological changes: Hormonal changes, health problems and erectile dysfunction can affect sexuality.
2. Emotional changes: Stress, depression and worry can have an impact on sexual desire and performance.
3. Lifestyle changes: Retirement, family commitments and changes in routine can influence sexuality.
4. Adaptation: Older people may have to adapt to physical and emotional changes to maintain an active and satisfying sex life.

It is important to discuss these changes openly with your partner and to consult a doctor if necessary to find appropriate solutions. Sexuality can be maintained at any age by exploring new techniques and being creative.

Who should I talk to about communication and sexuality?

If you are having problems with communication or sexuality, it is advisable to consult a mental health professional. Here are some professionals you can consult:

1. Psychologist: A psychologist can help you deal with communication and sexuality problems and develop strategies to resolve them.
2. Sexologist: A sexologist is a professional trained to treat sexual and relationship problems.
3. Marriage and family counsellor: A marriage and family counsellor can help couples overcome obstacles in their relationship and strengthen their connection.
4. Psychiatrist: A psychiatrist can help treat mental disorders that can affect sexuality, such as depression and anxiety.

It's important to find a professional you trust and with whom you feel comfortable discussing your concerns. It is also important to choose a professional who is qualified and experienced in the field that concerns you.

Sophie Mercier, Marriage and family counsellor.